“Loneliness is such a drag” – Jimi Hendrix
Do you ever feel like you’re totally alone?
Like no one understands you?
Like you’re the only one in the world who’s going through the situation you find yourself in right now?
Like you’re the only who (fill in the blank):
- Doesn’t have anyone in their life to love?
- Hates their job?
- Doesn’t have a job?
- Is living on the edge every day?
- Isn’t happy.
- Isn’t rich?
- Doesn’t have 10,000 Twitter followers?
- Is too fat?
- Too thin?
- Walks around with total anxiety and doesn’t know why?
- Isn’t good at anything?
- Wants to be free to do what they really want to do?
- Feels totally insignificant?
Is There Anybody Out There?
It’s easy to feel this way, isn’t it? Like if you disappeared off the face of the Earth tomorrow no one would even notice?
Well, guess what?
You are not alone.
Not even close.
I wrote this post feeling a little alone tonight after starting my new blog. You work really hard to put yourself out there in an effort to produce first rate work that you hope will offer real value to your readers. And sometimes it just feels like no one’s even listening.
Just Nod If You Can Hear Me
Oh, I’ve read all the advice from the experts on how to do it right. That it takes a long time. That you have to stick with it. That most fail at this because they don’t stay with it long enough. Or they just aren’t speaking to the right audience and don’t know how to find them.
So no, I’m not deluding myself that I would wake up to 100,000 subscribers overnight just after going live. Still, it didn’t change the feeling that I was all alone.
How To Deal With Loneliness
So how do you deal with loneliness? Look for signs of life in your life.
Out of the blue, I remembered an email I received a while back from someone who had discovered my music online totally by accident.
At the time I was feeling similarly alone about my music. I had just spent several months slaving away in the studio with my band in an effort to produce something that would blow people away. That would shine a light on my greatest passion.
Sure, there had been some great successes with getting it heard by the world and even making some money from it with licensing placements in TV and film. Still, you feel so alone sometimes and wonder if you’re just pissing in the wind.
Here is the text of that email:
My name is Amy and I am a fan of your music. You are a great musician, writer, and producer. You play guitar from the heart with passion and soul. Your music is uplifting and inspiring. I shattered my leg and I have had several operations. I have been laid up forever and I am beyond losing my mind with pain and boredom. I was wondering if I could please receive one of your imprinted or hand signed guitar picks? I would really appreciate it. Thank you for your time and effort,as well as for your music.
All the best,
Can You Spot The Cynic In The Room?
(And what was my initial response?)
I wondered if it was some kind of sophisticated spam.
So I wrote her back and thanked her, asking what her favorite song of mine was. As if to test her, like one of those anti-spam boxes you have to fill in.
She wrote back and described in detail, to my surprise, the various projects I had posted on my website and what she found inspiring about each. I was floored.
(Can you say asshole?)
She really did listen. My music really did impact her in the way she described.
Of course, I immediately sent her the signed pick along with a care package of my CDs. And she thanked me profusely for making her day right away.
Don’t Quit Your Day Job Yet
I know. It was just one person.
You can’t quit your day job over such things. You can’t delude yourself that there are a million more just like her out there and all you have to do is find them.
But you touched someone. You made a difference inone person’s life through your work. Your passion.
You found one true fan.
Surely, there must be many more like her out there.
You are not alone.
You Are An Essential Puzzle Piece In The Big Picture
We live this life to connect to one another and share what makes us unique and what we also have in common. We are all puzzle pieces floating around in search of connection to complete the picture and guess what? The other pieces are out there too and they need you for exactly the same reason.
There’s always someone out there who is a perfect match looking for what you do, who you are, what makes you special. Never forget this.
Keep doing your thing. Keep shining your light. Even if it seems to be illuminating only darkness right now. These are only clouds. It will eventually be appreciated. If you keep moving forward toward the dream.
Nice to meet you too!
“Here I sit between my brother the mountain and my sister the sea. We three are one in loneliness, and the love that binds us together is deep and strong and strange.”
Was there ever a time you felt like you were totally alone? What did you do to get through it and keep moving forward? Leave a comment and join the conversation. (You won’t feel so alone anymore either 🙂
Rock your story!